Promoting Positive Behaviour Policy

Policy Statement:

As childcarers we wish to provide a welcoming and nurturing environment for the children in our care and their families. By setting reasonable, appropriate limits on behaviour and stressing positive discipline we hope to provide an enjoyable, safe and happy environment from which children can learn the social skills needed for their future.

At no time will we ever use any form of physical discipline or any other discipline which would cause any pain, discomfort or humiliation to a child in our care.


  • We support positive discipline as a way to manage children’s behaviour and we promote this with consistent rules and limits which are flexible, realistic and appropriate to a child’s age, development and understanding.
  • We will discuss appropriate practice for promoting good behaviour with the parents prior to looking after the child and when required during the childminding relationship.
  • Unless otherwise agreed with the parents, we will be consistent with all cared for and our own children, taking into account the age and individual development of the child.
  • We will encourage good behaviour and give clear and consistent expectations about acceptable behaviour by:
      • setting a good example; we will ensure we always set a good example as a positive role model as children learn a lot from watching and copying other people.
      • being consistent; we respect parent’s views and values with regard to managing their child’s behaviour and try to ensure that these are met wherever possible and that a consistent approach to discipline is maintained so a child does not become confused.
      • demonstrating concern and respect for others, living things and the environment; we encourage the children to have respect for others and to have self-discipline which helps them to regulate their own behaviour even if no one is there to see it. We will reinforce this by teaching children to share and take turns, to say please and thank you, to listen to each other, treat the animals in the house well and treat each other nicely and care for each other.
      • encouraging children to share; teaching children how to cooperate with each other, take turns and to share.
      • readily praising and approving wanted behaviour; Good behaviour is rewarded as this encourages further good behaviour and effort from a child. Giving praise and attention builds children’s self-esteem and this makes them feel valued and makes them more likely to behave well in the future. We will always ensure children know it is their behaviour that is wrong and not themselves who is disapproved of. Hurting or hitting another child is always wrong and not permitted in our home.
      • distracting and re-directing children’s activities; If a child is exhibiting unwanted behaviour we will try to redirect and distract them with an activity or toy.
      • encouraging responsibility; helping children’s understanding of what is right and wrong by explaining, for example, why it is wrong to hurt somebody, or why is acceptable to have more food if everybody else has already had some; we will encourage and explain why as this is more effective than just giving orders and instructions in making children understand rules and what unwanted behaviour is.
      • involving children in setting house rules and boundaries and identifying issues and finding solutions; I like to involve children as much as possible in setting the rules and boundaries and explaining why these are needed, identifying issues and finding solutions. I will explain the house rules to the children and get them to think about why we should have them for example asking them how they would feel if somebody wouldn’t share with them or if someone hurt them. We would get them to suggest other rules they think would be a good idea so they can take ownership of them and feel involved.
      • We will never give physical punishment to any child and will ensure that no one in our setting gives physical punishment to any child.
  • We will never threaten a child with physical punishment or use or threaten any form of punishment, which could have an adverse impact on the child's well-being.
  • Physical intervention will only be used if it is necessary to prevent personal injury to the child or an adult, to prevent serious damage to property or in what would reasonably be regarded as exceptional circumstances. Any occasion where physical intervention is used to manage a child’s behaviour will be recorded and parents informed on the same day.
  • If there are any changes to a child’s situation that might affect their behaviour e.g. a new baby, moving home, parents separating or a bereavement etc. then we would ask parents to tell us so we are aware of any possible issues that may arise.
  • Any incidents of injury to another child will be recorded and both parents informed and asked to sign the record.
  • If a child has issues with managing their feelings and behaviour will discuss this with the child’s parents and try to devise strategies for dealing with these. If needed will get advice and support from other agencies and professionals such as the child’s health visitor, the IPEH team, our childminder agency manager or the NSPCC. Any information that is shared will be kept confidential and only shared with people who need to know to support a child unless there is a child protection risk to the child.

If a child behaves in an unacceptable way they are;

        • warned the behaviour is unwanted and must stop, the reasons why they have behaved so and why it must cease are explored with the child
        • We will try to distract the child from that situation to prevent reoccurrence by involving them in a different type of play
        • if the behaviour persists then the child is moved from the situation and asked to sit on a chair and reflect on his/her behaviour
        • if the child has hurt another child they are encouraged to apologise be it verbally or with a sign for sorry, it is explained to the child how the hurt child is feeling
        • if the behaviour persists and is causing danger, distress or damage to the other children, adults or our home then this will be discussed with the child's parents and we will work with the parents to manage the behaviour.
        • if parents do not work with us and/or the behaviour persists and causes issues around the care of the other children then the contract for childcare will be terminated.


Biting can be an uncomfortable subject for parents of both the biter and the child who is bitten.

Please do discuss any concerns you have regarding this issue with me.

If your child is known to bite we would prefer to know in advance. Many children go through this stage of biting so please do not be alarmed or embarrassed it doesn’t last forever!

Children bite for a variety of reasons e.g. teething, frustration, exploring using their mouth, attention seeking, asserting independence and wanting to gain control – maybe of a toy, or they could be stressed.

We will work closely with you to establish when and why your child is biting and any triggers that cause the biting. This will enable us to work with you on avoiding the incidents occurring by putting in place a plan or resources to combat these issues.

If a child is bitten we will ensure that they are comforted, treated with first aid if required and given lots of attention. The incident will be recorded and the parents asked to sign it.

For the child who is biting we will remove them from the situation, explain to them according to their age and understanding that biting is unacceptable behaviour, it may be necessary for them to have a time out until they are calmed down. We will encourage the child to apologise to whoever was bitten.

Ground Rules or House Rules

House rules (ground rules) will be discussed with parents prior to their child starting in our care. Parents will be able to make any suggestions to these and adaptations will be made where reasonable.

Ground rules are mainly to prevent behaviour which is hurtful, dangerous or offensive to other children or adults. They should prevent damage to property, both our own and the children’s and stop any child from feeling unwelcome or upset.

The House Rules are;

  • Be kind and look after each other
  • Respecting other people’s culture, beliefs, religions, views and families
  • Listen and speak nicely to each other
  • If you hurt or upset someone say Sorry
  • Say please and thank you
  • Holds hands if we are out on trips or near a road
  • Hurting others is not acceptable
  • Toys are to be shared
  • Chairs and tables are not for climbing or jumping on
  • No one should enter the kitchen without us
  • We all wash our hands after using the toilet, before eating food or if we have been outside to prevent germs
  • We all tidy up after we have played with something
  • Everyone is different and should be included in what we are playing

Obviously, these house rules have to be adapted depending on the age and stage of development of the children in our care.